Topic started by a worried soul (@ brf-cache11.jaring.my) on Tue May 15 10:50:15 .
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hello there.. I am a girl here and recently i have been having a very bad time. For the past 3 years my friends around has backed stabbed me so badly and made used of me in the sense of using over using my school things. In 2 weeks time, i will be starting in a different place. But the same kind of friends will be around. I want any ideas where i can change my lifestyle. I know when i go there i will be to myself and i wont mix much with people. What can i do so that i wont have the lonely feeling. The 2nd thing, at the moment i m really plum. I tried some things to loose it but it never works. I really want to loose this extra fats in me. Please .. can anyone help me. Thank a lot .

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• From: meenatchi karuppiah (@ fplanet.singnet.com.sg) on: Mon May 21 01:30:13
  
  from meena
  
  you don't have to avoid others just because of a past bitter experience. the world is full of people. you can always make new friends. forget the past. there are good chums around. just mix around with a positive mind.you never know, you'll be having a ball of time with your new friends no soon enough. a balanced diet is not only healthy but also helps to loose weight. eat more of fresh fruits and vegetables and less of fatty and starchy foods. make exercising a part of your life.jogging and briskwalking are good form of exercises to loose weight and keep fit. if you have any medical problems consult your doctor before getting down to exercise.do it regularly.cheer up. look at the brighter side of life. happy living.
  
  
• From: Srini (@ 203.117.167.130) on: Mon May 21 04:29:33
  
  Hello friend:
  Please don't get so disheartened. If you have indeed been an object of bullying or bitter comments in the past, it could as well have been due to extra-ordinary traits in you that others didn't possess. I mean it could all have been due to their jealousy. Okay :-) So, be proud of what you are. There's so much to accomplish in life.
  
  I think you haven't had much of a chance to meet other kinds of people for whatever reasons. If you have any NGO (Non Governmental Organization) nearby, in the areas of Child-education, Literacy drive, Elderly people care home etc. please try to enrol yourself as a volunteer and participate for say 3-6 hours every week.
  
  Besides getting a chance to meet co-volunteers (who by the very virtue of volunteership often tend to be more kind-hearted) the interaction with target audience will be eye-opening.
  
  Listen to good music, eat warm food, avoid ice-creams and late night TV watching, Sleep early and Get up early, Pray at least once a week, and stand in front of your mirror for at least 10 minutes everyday.. and you'll see yourself being very transformed.
  
  If you would indeed like to reply to this post.. reply as "Cheerful soul" and not as 'worried..' Okay. Take care. If you'd like to know what volunteership is all about.. please visit the following websites. however you may have to look for equivalent bodies in Malaysia since these are Singapore based. God Bless you.
  
  http://www.nvc.org.sg
  
  http://www.sinda.org.sg
  
  
• From: soul .. (@ brf-cache11.jaring.my) on: Mon May 21 05:50:40
  
  thanks a lot meena and srini.. you guys were really cool. but one thing is .. when ever i go jogging or anything like that i tend to loose the confident when i see people around. I feel as though they are looking down at me because i m plum and that they might talk something bad. My mum used to tell me that it is a very bad thought. I know it is bad and it is something stupid... but i just cant help it.
  
  about me trusting new people and also getting new friends. ... i am not that sure how i m going to do that. I was really hurt by those who i really trust. And now, i dont have much who i can really trust .. further more .. in my new place .. we (my whole class) is transfered to another state. I just dont have the confident to get new friends when i have those old ones who hurt me just sitting beside me ..
  
  
• From: johny (@ 203.197.149.26) on: Mon May 21 11:18:14
  
  I think you are an introvert and too self conscious and also suffer from inferiority complex.Try to follow my suggestions.....
  
  
  1.Develop confidence in yourself.Dont think being plump is ugly.Many great people in the past and present in this world were plump.Set a goal to yourself,like you will shed off a few Kg's of weight in the next 2 or 3 months.Imagine yourself being slim and fit.whenever you feel as if you are giving up your exercise program and about to quit, just close your eyes and imagine the looks you are going to have in the next 3 months and how people are going to look at you when you are fit.Dont ever give up your exercise program.When you lose your first few pounds,the type of feeling you'll have couldnt be described....you will gain a new confidence in yourself.Design a diet program for yourself which should be realistic and achievable.Dont set goals that couldnt be achived immediately.I dont know where you are from....try to get a book on exercising.I suggest you to read "body building for beginners" written by 'Oscar heidenstam'.This book is inspirational for anyone who is looking up for a good exercising program.
  Weightloss seems to be your major problem and if you achieve it then all other problems will wither away.All the best
  
  
• From: soul .. (@ bkj-cache81.jaring.my) on: Wed May 23 10:00:20
  
  thanks a lot johny .. i will try my best to do it .. :) .. it was really sweet of u people to help me out ..
  
  
• From: Ramadas (@ globalb9.citicorp.com) on: Fri May 25 00:06:38
  
  First of all, do not depend on others, for your happiness. Do not care about what other think, or
  talk about you. Do everything by getting guidance
  from GOD which is called conscience.
  
  
• From: Srini (@ 203.117.167.131) on: Fri May 25 04:03:22
  
  soul: I still suggest you to explore Volunteership opportunities nearby your place. That certainly brings in lot of purpose in life and even boosts self-worth. Keep checking this thread..I'll try to explore and post here. By the way which area of Malaysia do you reside in so that I can enquire if there's something close to your place. Take care. Do visit this forum when in need of moral support and don't brood unto yourselves. Good Luck.
  
  
• From: soul .. (@ bkj-cache81.jaring.my) on: Fri May 25 09:39:50
  
  Thanks a lot srini. I am staying in kuala lumpur. It is a nice place to be.. :) ... I am trying my best to change the way i think and the way i do things .. just wish me luck ...
  
  
• From: BUBBLE SORT (@ ) on: Sat Mar 20 21:58:24
  
  BUBBLE SORT
  
  

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