Topic started by Arjun (@ guardian.aig.com) on Thu Aug 23 14:28:40 .
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Hi Friends,

You all would have chatted. It's very easy to chat and get a good friend, But when it comes to a chat with the girl (for a date) for the first time, the girl with whom you may get married, it becomes real tough.

Many questions asked get back fired.. and what not.. Kindly pour in your experiences / suggestions on how to get along this situation by asking the most relavent questions.

The ball is in your court.

Rgds,
Arjun

Responses:

• From: Ramadas (@ globalc31.citicorp.com) on: Thu Aug 23 19:01:56
  
  Best thing is not to talk. Quieten you mind, in
  such circumstances.The problem is because both
  are over-reactive to the situation. Both should
  keep quiet and allow the intuition to take over.
  After sometime each will start talking only what the other likes. Then it becomes harmony. Be patient. Wait until the inner being starts the
  conversation.... Lot to say and understand on these things. I do not know if the ordinary materialistic world will understand!!!
  
  
• From: anu (@ ppp-200-7-20.bng.vsnl.net.in) on: Sun Sep 2 13:52:10
  
  never been much into chatting but I would agree with what Ramdas has said. One chats mainly for fun so it all amounts to how much fun u can give to the other, enuf to make her interested in a deeper relationship with you. Better not think about marriage etc at the start...u need to know whether you two deserve each other, right?
  
  
• From: Siby (@ 203.199.79.137) on: Mon Sep 3 01:40:08
  
  Arjun,
  It's difficult to know if the other person is male or female from the first few chats. Even after a few chats and exchange of males one can camouflage one's language to hide one's gender/ identity.
  Your date can materialise only after confirming her place and identities or else you may be in for a rude shock.
  
  >> The ball is in your court.
  
  I never expected by replying your query the ball will be in my court:-)
  I can only give some tips as how to court a girl:-)
  
  
• From: Ramadas (@ globalc34.citicorp.com) on: Mon Sep 3 05:53:49
  
  Siby, I think Arjun was talking about the real
  chat, not the internet-chat! So he must be
  knowing the gender.
  
  
• From: stg (@ 12.151.162.48) on: Mon Sep 3 08:23:48
  
  ramdas is correct about being quiet and not aggitated. But that should not be overdone so as to look like two statues. One more thing conversation is an art not a science and so you see some people having a natural flair and some others come as a cropper. Honesty and being causal helps a bit. Avoid arguing and asserting in the first meeting and ofcourse all oneupmanship should be shunned and for heavens sake dont hijack the conversation. best of luck
  
  

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