Topic started by Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt13-port-36.dial.telus.net) on Sun Aug 25 01:14:44 .
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Jai Karunamayi!

Below is a transcript of an e-mail I sent to the ashram in Hawaii at the end of January. It is titled, "Hindu men show respect and loyalty to wives as well".

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From: rajneesh@telusplanet.net
To: webmaster@hindu.org
Date: Tuesday, January 29, 2002 6:49 PM
Subject: Hindu men should show respect and loyalty
to wives as well!
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From: rajneesh@telusplanet.net

Dear sir,
Many times in my years as a Hindu devotee, I have heard many things like Hindu women should respect husband and be loyal to him etc.. Well, you know what? The same rule also applies to Hindu men. And, it should! Just like if a Hindu woman backstabs her husband, he has the right to be upset with and hurt by her, she has the exact same right to be angry at her husband and what not if he went to the bar and didn't get back until two in the morning or he had his ex wife in the house while she was absent. I as a Hindu man am sworn to respect and be loyal to the Hindu woman I hope to marry someday. I can guarantee you that if 5 years from now, I marry a Hindu woman and I vow to her I will respect and be faithful and loyal to her, she will see that I follw that and obey her. And at some point I break the vow and disobey her wishes by going out until 3:30am and not telling her where I have been, or letting unwanted persons into her home, I will see the wrath of my Hindu wife. (Whoa! Rice Cooker City, Here I come!) Also, I do NOT believe that men have special privelages that allow men to cheat or lie to their wives. Just as I believe a Hindu woman should show love, respect,
etc to her husband, the Hindu man, I believe, should do exactly the same thing, RESPECT HIS WIFE, FOR SHE HAS THE SAME RIGHTS IN MARRIAGE!

That means,

1)Not letting unwanted people in the house.
2)No going out until the wee hours of the night without phoning sugarplum and telling her where he is.
3)Carrying his part of the load
4)All out doing what his wife expects of him
5)And no speaking dispespectfully to her or
slandering/hitting her!

These are rules that should be abided to by all married Hindu men and no acceptions!
Thank you for a few minutes of your time.
OM SHANTHI!
Skanthavelu Nadarajah

PS: If you very much agree with what I said in this e-mail, please e-mail me back and tell me what you think. But, If you think that a man shouldn't have to obey and be faithful to his wife
and he should tyrannize his wife, don't even bother e-mailing me.
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Please tell me what you think of the above transcript. nanRi! Jai Karunamayi!

Responses:

• From: Rajaraja Cholan (@ bl95e-6.me.iastate.edu) on: Sun Aug 25 17:47:51
  
  Matha Karunamayi is going to come as durga matha on a lion to save the good people from the sinners. She will unleash the power of her spear to destroy evil and will eventually Join Lord Siva at Kailasa mountains witht their sons Karthikeya and Ganesa and with the son of Lord Siva and Mohini (Female form of Lord Mahavishnu) Ayyappa.
  
  
• From: Rajaraja Cholan (@ bl95e-6.me.iastate.edu) on: Sun Aug 25 17:52:40
  
  Please visit these Lord Ayyappan websites.
  
  << http://www.ayyappan-ldc.com/ >>
  
  << http://www.ayyappa.com/ >>
  
  << http://www.hindunet.org/alt_hindu/1995_May_1/msg00003.html >>
  
  << http://www.saranamayyappa.org/Lord_Ayyappa.htm >>
  
  << http://www.sabarigiri.org/ >>
  
  << http://www.indiatraveltimes.com/kerala/sabarimala.html >>
  
  << http://www.achichu.com/ayyappa/lordayyappa.htm >>
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt13-port-155.dial.telus.net) on: Sun Aug 25 20:56:42
  
  Rajaraja Cholan,
  What does your post have to do with what I posted on this thread? Jai Karunamayi!
  
  
• From: fridge (@ netcache6.is.co.za) on: Mon Aug 26 07:08:58
  
  Skanthavelu
  
  Nice post.
  I think that when Indian woman stop treating their sons like Kings and take off their heads where they normaly keep them then maybe men will be able to show respect to their wives,
  Well as that will take ages to happen I guess woman have to stick to the good old fashioned way of beating their husbands with the rolling pin when they come homw at 3 am.
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt6-port-238.dial.telus.net) on: Mon Aug 26 08:22:14
  
  hehehe.. That is a funny one, Fridge! hehehe..
  >>>stop treating their sons like Kings and taking off their heads where they normally keep them<<<
  >>>beating their husbands with the rolling pin when they come home at 3 am<<< funny! :)
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt6-port-238.dial.telus.net) on: Mon Aug 26 08:40:58
  
  Fridge,
  Although, I would think Indian women would prefer hitting the husband with the RICE COOKER whe they start coming home from the pub/bar at 3:30 in the morning. :) Hurts, but, it may work! :) Jai Karunamayi!
  
  
• From: baki (@ 210.187.150.56) on: Sat Aug 31 10:16:08
  
  Hey,
  Well, I think this whole thing is happenning around the world because of the old practices where women doesn't need to talk or get to know the guy she's going marry - all that she need to do is to dress up good and serve the so called guy some tea and the next thing she knows,she's on the dais sitting next to him with a thaali.There is no UNDERSTANDING!So how can the "...and they lived happily ever after." be possible?
  
  
• From: Vicky R (@ wdslppp97.sttl.uswest.net) on: Sun May 4 17:42:49
  
  Hello,
  This really does not have anything to do with your subject. But I would greatly appreciate any feedback you may have. I am a white caucasian woman, 48 years old. I walked into a 7-11 one day and the man working there is Hindu, 40 years of age. We talked and he asked me to out for some great Indian food someday, so I gave him my phone number. We have talked everyday since then...about a month. I go into the store for a couple minutes on my way to work about 3 times a week. We only met outside of the store one time in a park for about 30 minutes. He works 2 jobs and is very busy. I work full-time too. He tells me he loves me. I can't understand how he can in such a short time. He has not called me now for 2 days. I don't know if I completley trust him. He tells me he is divorced and lives with his brother and family. My question is this: what is your opinion of a Hindu man in a relationship with a white American Catholic woman??? Do you think our cultures are too different to ever make a relationship work? Can you tell me what the general Hindu people think of this kind of mixed relationship? Anything you can tell me, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks you so much. My e-mail is" vickyrowland@yahoo.com
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-35-51.home.cgocable.net) on: Sun May 4 21:33:26 EDT 2003
  
  vicky, just check to make sure that he indeed is divorced and is just not separated from his wife or some such. Forget about what others might think, but just make sure you are not being taken for a ride.
  
  
• From: Roshan (@ 203.115.13.90) on: Mon May 5 01:08:15 EDT 2003
  
  Vicky,
  You are a 48 year old woman, educated, holding a full time job and hence independent. I'm sure yOu are mature and experienced enough to keep your head on top of your shoulders and think for yourself, especially regarding a life partner. In a situation like this no body can get into your shoes and give a complete solution. Only you know what exactly it is. The only thing I could say is, please do not make any decision out of sympathy.
  
  

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