Topic started by ~ (@ 219.92.215.97) on Sat Jul 26 04:17:46 .
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why do most people always think that a daughter -in-law and her mother -in-law will not be in good terms ?

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• From: tmotf (@ 128.252.181.24) on: Fri Aug 8 15:05:33 EDT 2003
  
  I think you dont need to be too sarcastic to a non-tamil-speaking hubber who does not understand the meaning of a pure thamizh word, thanikudiththanam, J or M.
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-188-97.home.cgocable.net) on: Fri Aug 8 15:40:18 EDT 2003
  
  Joe, I too forgot that Shekhar does not know Tamil. tmotf, thanks for the reminder.
  
  Shekhar,
  
  Sorry about using the word. I dont think thanikudithanam has can be translated to English, but it basically means a home where only husband, wife, kids reside. no in-laws from either side. It is the opposite of joint family.
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-188-97.home.cgocable.net) on: Fri Aug 8 15:41:11 EDT 2003
  
  "Ha! " if the husband has a backbone" -- typical womanish!!
  "
  
  Shekhar, that was typical man-ish!!
  
  
• From: Shakthi (@ 203-195-199-244.now-india.net.in) on: Fri Aug 8 22:54:07 EDT 2003
  
  Thanikudithanam is
  
  nuclear family
  
  unlike joint family
  
  
  what ever happens, just happens with husband and wife, and they may burst.. or... merge as two nuclei!
  
  hehehe;;
  
  
• From: Seshadri (@ 14.149.3.213.dial.bluewin.ch) on: Sat Aug 9 03:06:24 EDT 2003
  
  'Thanikudithanam'(nuclear family) is the solution for all the inlaws' problems.
  
  It can be converted into 'heaven-on-earth' or even as 'hell-on-earth???' or just 'earthly-on-earth' ... just as in any other system of living .... Any takers ???
  
  My opinion:
  
  Nuclear family facilitates full partnership development, understanding, mutual support, mutual progress, independent/supportive mental advancements etc in the case of happily married couples.
  
  (Simultaneously, relationships with the inlaws should be properly maintained and fully attended to.)
  
  Are all couples (with children) in 'Thanikudithanams' happily married?
  Is 'Thanikudithanam' panacea for all problems?
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-188-97.home.cgocable.net) on: Sat Aug 9 08:10:57 EDT 2003
  
  "
  Nuclear family facilitates full partnership development, understanding, mutual support, mutual progress, independent/supportive mental advancements etc in the case of happily married couples.
  
  (Simultaneously, relationships with the inlaws should be properly maintained and fully attended to.) "
  
  Seshadri:
  
  Well said on both points.
  
  
  "Are all couples (with children) in 'Thanikudithanams' happily married?
  Is 'Thanikudithanam' panacea for all problems?"
  
  That would depend on the couple, but at least this gives them a fair chance.
  
  thanikudithanam with "Simultaneously, relationships with the inlaws INSERT (on both sides)END INSERT should be properly maintained and fully attended to" has a very good chance of leading to a successful and happy marriage.
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-188-97.home.cgocable.net) on: Sat Aug 9 08:12:15 EDT 2003
  
  "hehehe;;"
  
  Shekhar for you ellaame (everything) kindalthaan (is a joke) :))
  
  
• From: Shekhar (@ 61.1.142.159) on: Sat Aug 9 11:30:27 EDT 2003
  
  Smiley,
  
  "Shekhar for you ellaame (everything) kindalthaan (is a joke) :))"
  
  I have gone through too many ordeals in life. But I have realised I can cope with them better when I look at them impersonally with a slice of humour. You just try it. You will suceed great. Just change your paradigm. You can truly enjoy life!!!
  
  
• From: Seshadri (@ 131.143.3.213.dial.bluewin.ch) on: Sun Aug 10 01:32:17 EDT 2003
  
  Taking things easy (except very few earth shaking ones) and looking at the comic side of life makes every day and every experience a thrill :))
  
  
  
  
  
• From: Shakthi (@ 203-195-199-244.now-india.net.in) on: Sun Aug 10 06:28:39 EDT 2003
  
  :),
  
  "
  "hehehe;;"
  
  <<<<<<<<<<<
  
  I said that hehehe yaar!
  
  
• From: :) (@ d150-40-7.home.cgocable.net) on: Sun Aug 10 13:05:07 EDT 2003
  
  Shekhar,
  
  "I have gone through too many ordeals in life"
  
  Life has taught me a few tough lessons too. I understand seeing the humour in everything, but IMHO it is best not to get cynical :).
  
  Shakthi,
  
  
  "I said that hehehe yaar!"
  
  Sorry about that.
  
  
• From: Roshan (@ 203.115.13.90) on: Tue Aug 12 04:00:52 EDT 2003
  
  Shekhar,
  >> I have gone through too many ordeals in life. But I have realised I can cope with them better when I look at them impersonally with a slice of humour. >>
  
  Your statement reminds me of a quote;
  
  Life is a tragedy for a man who feels, and
  life is a comedy for a man who thinks.
  
  - Author unknown.
  
  
• From: Leon (@ 202.88.171.87) on: Tue Aug 12 10:40:34 EDT 2003
  
  This is an old joke-
  
  Woman 1: Unga maatu pon per enna?
  Woman 2: "Cow"salya
  
  

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