Topic started by Kalnenjikkaaran (@ 212.119.55.16) on Fri Jan 31 04:17:48 .
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Hi all Forumhubbers....if not only because of this forumhub discussions..i would have gone half crazy ...becos i am in loneliness in a city in Russia ..far away from parents....and i am living alone.....for education.
The reason i am writing this is that i want you all to forgive me .I am in a great distress....i am regretting for being a stonehearted person in the past....i am looking for a type of penance....
i am too religious and kind..but sometimes i turn out to be a cruel and rude guy,,,,i dont know why.....i get angry and i dont think...
Recently just two days ago ..i had my very good friend as a guest came visiting me planning to stay in my house for a week....after a very very unreasonable anger(of mine)..i asked him to go(his city is 600 kilometers far away)..he was so depressed and immediately left for the next train.
After some hours... i began crying for what i have done to him...he has come all the way(600km) to see me but why didn't i take care of him....now i am regretting...i am supposed not to do this...and i am not the kind of person who would do like this.....till now i am crying.....and i called him a few times...but he informed his friend that he is not willing to talk to anyone.......i have destroyed a friends feeling.....what a most cruel guy i am....i dont deserve to get any friends......
Just 5 months ago....another incident happenned THAT after my semster break...i was in my home(with my mother and siblings).My mother she lovingly cooks for me what i like to eat....but one day after eating a very delicious food cooked by my mother......she said she will do mre what like(since that was my vacation time and after that vacation i have to come back to russia)..after she has said that.. i started asking her why the table in the kithchen was so untidy ........and started a minor arguement...she started crying and said so difficultly and concernly she has prepared all the dish...and despite of all this i am being like this.....she was crying and crying....
Dear Forumhubbers i am the most sinful guy in this world...i dontknow why i am doing all this at sometimes........i am looking for ManaShaanthi......and forgiveness...Would you all forgive me.....i dont know whther my mother or my friend of mine will forgive me or not....but would you all.....??

Responses:

• From: ec (@ bryant.rz-berlin.mpg.de) on: Fri Jan 31 07:28:48
  
  Hi, we humans are prone to errors. Don't worry everyone would have done such acts at some part of his life. The feel of lonliness can drive one crazy. But what to do?! Many are in your situation and we must find someway to keep our mind healthy. Try to figure out good friends (not just indians!) and stay in touch with them.
  
  The incident with you mother, you could have avoided. But i have noticed that mothers are the common receivers of emotional outbursts of the family members almost in every home. However once you realized that its a mistake, be careful as not to repeat it.
  
  The other incident with your friend, its really terrible! But since you are feeling so deeply for that and want to resume your friendship, don't hesitate to write to him a letter expressing all your feelings. Sooner or later he will understand and accept you. If not then its not a friendship worth worrying.
  
  But you must be really careful to avoid this in future and learn to be diplomatic. Because we are social animals and need people to share our emotions.
  
  Find out the cause for your anger. Sometimes it could be that you are too tired, or you may have some complexes hidden deep in your mind. Try to overcome those. Whenever you get anger, take a vow of not uttering any words until it subsides. You may even chant the name of your favourite God. All what counts for a change are realization of the mistake, determination and perseverance to change it and belief that you will change.
  
  
  
• From: Raghu (@ 217.158.120.226) on: Fri Jan 31 08:07:19
  
  Kalnenjikkaaran (@ 212.119.55.16)
  
  I too get very aggresive & emotional for no reason, Try meditation, it would help you!
  
  
• From: Shakthi (@ 203-195-199-244.now-india.net.in) on: Sat Feb 1 00:50:13
  
  hey kalnenjikaran,
  
  1.Stop self pitying u
  2.Stop feeling guilty
  3.Try meditation
  4.Try japa
  5.Do some breathing exercise
  6.Do Autosuggestion
  7.Go for counselling
  8.Catch a kool friend
  u need a real person to pour ur feelings out.
  have someone very close as ur friend, it will help.
  
  warm regards,
  Shakthi
  
  
• From: Thamilan (@ 12.151.162.25) on: Sat Feb 1 02:09:54
  
  Hi Man,
  
  What ever damage that was done has been done now recovery plan has to be put in action.
  
  The thing is " DONT DO IT AGAIN " if you did you got a real problem.
  
  If you want maybe I can help you to get your friendship back on track.
  
  Just mail me
  
  
  
  
• From: Skanthavelu Nadarajah (@ edtntnt2-port-6.dial.telus.net) on: Sat Feb 1 10:08:19
  
  kalnenjikaran,
  I have a temper which needs working on big time! I need to work on controlling my temper before I start thinking about getting a girlfriend/eventually marrying her.
  
  
• From: batttlefied of erath (@ 219.92.197.30) on: Sat Feb 1 10:09:50
  
  no regret..........be a good human being trrow
  
  that s the facts
  
  
• From: kalnenjikkaran (@ 195.239.77.249) on: Sun Feb 2 12:04:50
  
  thanx alot guyz-i appreciate your answers...
  
  
• From: kalnenjikkaran (@ 212.119.55.16) on: Thu Feb 6 07:40:13
  
  we have got ok...he has understood..thanx a thousand times for all of you ...Good luck.
  
  
• From: Harish Kumar (@ 203.195.215.254) on: Sun Feb 9 11:19:59
  
  Yes , we have all forgiven you !!!
  
  
• From: kalnenjikkaran (@ 212.119.55.16) on: Mon Feb 10 05:22:28
  
  thanx harish...
  
  

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