Topic started by mareena (@ 202.9.186.14) on Mon Apr 28 07:11:25 .
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how to get over my shyness

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• From: Nobody (@ c-66-177-115-58.se.client2.attbi.com) on: Tue Apr 29 18:01:23 EDT 2003
  
  post on the internet, to start. Maybe the face-to-face is hard. Follow siblings places or go with parent/s. Are you in India or US? I guess I only only help/realize I can't help if I knew the cultural context... :)
  
  
• From: Jez (@ acbb0754.ipt.aol.com) on: Wed Apr 30 13:57:28 EDT 2003
  
  Jus' a couple of suggestions: The shy and the unnapproachable are big social challenges, but effectively the same. Thinking of yourself as being approachable, and others as requiring help (most people are too hopeless even to ask), should give you a jumping off point for people generally. Always ignore, brush off (as a joke), challenge or return undeserved put-downs, especially if they come from 'above'; how you take compliments is more open. Disclaimer: This just about works for me in Britain; life is tough.
  
  
• From: Rohit (@ webcachem08b.cache.pol.co.uk) on: Wed Apr 30 15:37:53 EDT 2003
  
  Watch and move, you will come out of the feelings very soon. Make no rush.
  
  Good luck
  
  
• From: fucker (@ 61.11.37.201) on: Thu May 8 04:51:26 EDT 2003
  
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• From: Ellen (@ c-66-177-115-58.se.client2.attbi.com) on: Thu May 8 10:43:55 EDT 2003
  
  When Jack had finally climbed up the bean stalk, he saw a humungous house straight ahead. He most carefully sneaks in, but gasped at the sound of a roaring. He hid in the pantry, trembling. From the corner of his eye, he saw the fabled giant. "A boy! Do I smell a boy? I want that boy so I can roast him and eat him up!!!, said the Giant."
  
  Hey boy, you haven't read your folk tales?Alright for your opinion, but it isn't appropriate nor is it effective for this situation. Hopefully, you will have discovered your superficial ways by the time you grow up.
  
  Thanks
  
  
• From: Ellen (@ c-66-177-115-58.se.client2.attbi.com) on: Thu May 8 11:15:42 EDT 2003
  
  Mareena, hey... yes. I'm sure you have got discretion in sorting what is good advice and what is not. I used to be very shy too...until I started to gain a little more confidence from all aspects of life, through hobbies, school, work, and however you spend your time amongst other people. What did it for me is that no matter how I am, I am "me". You need a little "I don't care what others think of me...I'm just gonna be me" attitude, but just enough. Other helpful attitudes include...
  "This is what I want and I don't care for less."
  "I am a good person, intelligent, and useful".
  "No matter what, if I project myself correctly, without any hiding, then, whether people like me or not, doesn't matter...because I am a genuine person!"
  
  Hope some of the attitudes you already have and may incorporate into your life and find that you are indeed a strong person who will overcome whatever fears, whatever worries, and whatever unknowns. I like Rohit's advice...don't rush it, though. You need to build solid confidence, not one that others' can bend, fold, or cut.
  
  
  
• From: Ellen (@ c-66-177-115-58.se.client2.attbi.com) on: Thu May 8 11:30:32 EDT 2003
  
  Mareena,
  
  Let me try to give you a more complete picture.
  Life can get tough and one can and one does make mistakes. That is where part of the confidence comes from...you mistakes. It seems odd and illogical, but it really is true. You come out somewhat from a dazed naive person into a stronger, more realistic person. You also need some visciousness (or shall I say fortitude) to ward off harm, bodily, mental, psycholgical, social, financial, emotional, and every little nook and corner of your life. But remember, it is a good type of visciousness...
  
  I feel better now, that I didn't leave you vulnerable.
  
  
• From: Madurai Veeran (@ adsl-64-171-26-35.dsl.sntc01.pacbell.net) on: Wed May 14 02:20:10 EDT 2003
  
  Mareena,
  
  1. 99% of the people you meet are just like you.
  You are no different. Don't worry about the rest 1%.
  
  2. Feel good about yourself. You are no different than the rest. When you talk to some one, remember that the person is just like you - no better, no worse.
  
  3. Dress well. Put on make up. Make yourself look more beautiful.
  
  3. Speak in front of a mirror. Learn to make the right gestures. Body language is very important in any communication.
  
  4. Don't ever feel ashamed of making mistakes. Unless you make mistakes, you will never learn.
  Learn not to make the same mistakes.
  
  5. Have a positive attitude and a good sense of humor. Nobody likes a frigid, serious person.
  
  6. Learn to have fun in life. Acting silly, sometimes makes you feel young.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• From: Madurai Veeran (@ adsl-64-171-26-35.dsl.sntc01.pacbell.net) on: Wed May 14 02:21:50 EDT 2003
  
  I am sorry. I forgot how to count. One of these days, I will get that straight.
  
  

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