Topic started by vimala (@ brf-cache11.jaring.my) on Sat Jul 21 06:40:29 .
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Is there anyone out there who broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and later on (after a few months/years) asked them back and living happyly after that incident . I really need deep advice. Help me please !

Responses:

• From: Muthu K Karuppan (@ cache-cro-hsi.cableinet.co.uk) on: Sat Jul 21 07:12:03
  
  It all depends on the temperament you people
  have. In life we can see lots of tests to relationships either it is husband & wife or
  friends. People with short temper always break.
  Even if they join together after sometime they will find it tough to be together.
  
  Analyse your life how you people attracted
  to each other and what reasons you break. If it
  is for a silly reason and if you people have lots
  of similar interests & objectives, you have
  better chances of living together happily.
  If you people joined together just for fun
  and no common interests, it is better for you
  to be alone than being together.
  
  
• From: shard (@ lan-202-144-125-38.maa.sify.net) on: Sat Jul 21 07:41:14
  
  I don't see why it shouldn't happen. But there are a few parameters to be met. Analyse the reasons you broke up in the first place. Are those issues still important to either of you. How do those issues stand today? Has anything changed? Is it for the better or for the worse? One thing you must understand is that you should not jump headlong without thinking just because there is a spark which hasn't died out...analyse that spark.
  There is no such thing as happily ever after. Just the fact that you are an individual means that you may think independent of your partner. If it is important to you argue it out, shout it out with each other...the silences and passive acceptance are the most dangerous.
  
  
• From: venkat (@ 202.9.180.2) on: Wed Jul 25 10:31:22
  
  once broken heart cannot be mended togather, and the cause for seperation need to be known.
  if it is for a trivial one or big issue?
  better say good bye and lead a happy life
  eeven u jion the question od suspicion will be there between both
  
  
• From: The Other Guy (@ ncao.vtcif.telstra.com.au) on: Wed Jul 25 23:48:15
  
  It entirely depends on the love or need between
  both of you.If love is thin every thing else will look big.Advice apart I think it is the need in all levels which makes people stick together.
  Commitment and patience will always be handy but
  both need to feel it and STOP BLAMING .
  Start BLAMING and sure they break at 1 stage or other .
  
  Later ..
  
  
• From: vibhu (@ 194.209.7.228) on: Sat Aug 4 02:38:46
  
  So , You want to know whether other people have done the separation and reunification. Yes, I have personally seen few cases like this. But it is difficult me to tell whether they lived without any problem after that. I can just tell that they still live together. Your case must be judged as per the situations you have faced and you are facing now.
  
  I have a slight difference of opinion with Venkat when his statement is being generalized. Good relations can be maintained after going through problems and solutions. It depends on the ability of the partners to make self-criticism and corrective measures.
  
  No two cases can be identical. The breed of solution for your problem is there within the problem, not in others experience. Analyze, find out and act.
  
  Vibhu
  
  
• From: vibhu (@ 194.209.7.228) on: Sat Aug 4 02:43:09
  
  Pls read seed of solution in place of breed ***. Sorry for the mistake.
  
  
• From: raj (@ 202.9.166.159) on: Sat Aug 4 14:10:04
  
  Dear Vimala,
  
  Please dont think u r the only one who is going thru this sort of a
  bad phase.My 4year old relationship came to an end last year.I was at
  the verge of humiliation,insult and pain when she told me atlast that
  i am not suitable for her.But now i,m totally recovered.
  My Humble ADvice 4u..
  Humans differ.Dont believe in any one.Believe in urself.Knowledge is POWER.
  When u have this power...everythiing will come to u.Acquire proper Knowledge.
  
  Be BOLD and face the WORLD.
  See... its just a matter of time.
  After six or seven months have a look at this thread and u will laugh
  at yourself for having created it.Because time is the healer.
  
  There is somebody better waiting for you.!!!!!YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!!
  
  Laugh as I do now...............
  
  RAJ
  
  
• From: stg (@ st55-new.aramco.com.sa) on: Sun Aug 5 02:22:52
  
  Vimala,
  
  Friendship or intimacy is something like china once broken its very difficult to repair and even if you repair the crack is always visible.
  What's the reason you parted ways? it that is irreconcilable then say good by. Again if the fight was on silly grounds and if you are not in touch for years then again say good by, coz you dont have the will to come to terms or the magnanimity to forgive and forget. Only if you have parted ways by conspiracy by a third party you reconcillation will be of any use or value. Else start afresh.
  
  

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