Topic started by Nobody (@ c-66-177-115-58.se.client2.attbi.com) on Sat May 3 18:02:46 .
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When I think of the death of my parent, it is quite inconceivable! And because it is inconceivable, I may not be 100% saint, though I realize the duty and love is there.
I was wondering, what is it like...do you really miss? Do you really feel bad about your lack of spending time and troubles you may have given in youth, to parents?
Is obedience to parents, do you think, a 100% rule?

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• From: guilty (@ 62.215.3.46) on: Sun Apr 18 04:48:30 EDT 2004
  
  Dear Friends, At this juncture i would like to share my grief with u all. We r three children for our parents, me being the eldest. Our parents didn't get along well right from the beginning and they had problems thro'out. we grew up as insecured children and wanted to find jobs for ourselves to stand on our own legs. i got a public sector job soon after my degree and i joined work. my sister did pg in computers and she also got a good job. my brother did diploma and he learnt a lot in computers and also into a good business now. i fell in love with my collegue and when i wanted to marry him there was lot of opposition in the family. my sister also was in love with his classmate and she said ok and my brother also was not against my wishes. so i came out of the house and got married. He is a good man and my life is happy now. My sister also got married to her lover against my parent's wishes. after 2 or 3 years everything was ok and my parents accepted our husbands as the best ones and we were all happy. my sister got a job in US and she left with her husband. My husband got a job in middle east so we came with our child. i resigned my job after 2 years. then my brother also got married to a girl who was working in his company.(love marriage again). this was done by my parents. after this though our parents were in good terms with us they were dead against each other. my mother used to be scolding my father all the time. after the daughter-in-law came into the family also this was continuing. suddenly we came to know that my father lost everything in his business and he had debts to the extent of 30 lacs. we helped him to some extent and he sold off his property and gave away his debts and he is old now 70 years. they had to move to a rented house for which my brother is paying the rent. He is well settled in his business now and everything is fine. Now they donot want to have my mother with them as she is shouting at father for all the mishaps in the family. so they have sent her out. Because she has been working in govt. service she is getting pension and she also has some deposits which is self sufficient for her. But at the age of 65 she needs moral support. She is staying in her brother's house now. Since we r in a middle east country even if i bring her here i cannot have her for more than 6 months. i cannot leave my husband alone here and go back to India and stay with her. My sister is also against my mother and she doesn't want to have her with her. I feel very very guilty for not being able to take care of my mother who has sacrificed so much for us. for the past six months i have been trying to find solutions for this problem but in vain. Every second i keep feeling for her and it is troubling me very much. Please let me have your suggestions as to what can be done about this and what i should do to keep her in peace at her old age. thank u.
  
  
• From: SUNGEETHA (@ ) on: Thu May 13 11:09:02
  
  My father died 5yrs ago..with stomach cancer. we are 4 sisters and my mom. I can still remember his suffering and all the pain that he had gone through. My dad was in a coma for a week, but on the day before he passed away, he woke up and said goodbye to us all and that he loved us alot. I will never, for as long as I live, forget how much of pain we felt that night. On the night after his funeral I dreamt of him saying goodbye and I remember crying and asking him not to go, but he consoled me and said that he will take care of all of us and make us really strong. this dream was so real & its what helped me get through the pain of loosing my beloved dad.
  
  
• From: abc (@ ) on: Tue Sep 7 02:31:44
  
  can we activate this thread again?
  
  
• From: sadmar (@ pr-108-002.ains.net.au) on: Sun Sep 12 01:49:44 EDT 2004
  
  for sure ABC.
  the rarest thread in forumhub
  
  
• From: guilty (@ 62.215.18.130) on: Sun Sep 12 03:17:34 EDT 2004
  
  response for my query. your suggestions please my dear friends.
  
  
• From: prejudice (@ ppp93-196.dsl-pun.eth.net) on: Thu Sep 16 05:40:59 EDT 2004
  
  Hi guilty,yours is not a singular problem and I feel your mom is quite capable of looking after herself.It is your father who needs your attention.When women expect so much from their men and scold them when their expectations are not met, they should also know under what pressures their men are surviving as men.Believe me,they are also human.
  
  
• From: prejudice (@ ppp93-196.dsl-pun.eth.net) on: Thu Sep 16 05:47:05 EDT 2004
  
  Hi guilty,yours is not a singular problem and I feel your mom is quite capable of looking after herself.It is your father who needs your attention.When women expect so much from their men and scold them when their expectations are not met, they should also know under what pressures their men are surviving as men.Believe me,they are also human.
  
  

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